I should…
I should be…
I must…
I must be…
Others have already done…
I should have…
We use such statements every day. We might not speak them, but they are our constant background companions.
They fill us with dread, feeling of great responsibility we cannot satisfy.
So:
Whenever you notice one of such statements use different language.
My goal is to…
My goal is to be…
My goal is to acchieve … what [that specific other] has acchieved.
I can do…
This frees you from overwhelm and you can focus on one step at a time. Be as specific as you can and avoid absolutes like: always, never, everybody, each time…
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