Musings

There is one right answer when you’re trying to resolve two opposing statements. (Depression is a lot about opposing statements, all being right and true, or all being wrong and false…)

That is, the right answer is the one you can live with.

All is in balance. This life is not made for those who seek the one and only truth. It’s made of hues. Accept it. Then you can build from there.

You need foundation. Start resolving small dualisms. Gain confidence from doing it yourself. Sure, there’s a pile of big uglies waiting for you, but not right now. Choose your battle so you can win. I can tell you from experience, you can win latter battles.

Start winning.

I hope it makes sense. Post a comment if you would like to share an example.

TNT 001

I should…

I should be…

I must…

I must be…

Others have already done…

I should have…

We use such statements every day. We might not speak them, but they are our constant background companions.

They fill us with dread, feeling of great responsibility we cannot satisfy.

So:

Whenever you notice one of such statements use different language.

My goal is to…

My goal is to be…

My goal is to acchieve … what [that specific other] has acchieved.

I can do…

This frees you from overwhelm and you can focus on one step at a time. Be as specific as you can and avoid absolutes like: always, never, everybody, each time…

TS 3: Dealing with a peculiar panic attack

I woke my own shrink in the middle of the night. Luckily, MOS is I.

This is just wonderful, having myself for a shrink. If I feel for a session in the middle of the night, I can do it, no resentment. Continue reading TS 3: Dealing with a peculiar panic attack