Hi Mos, long time no see.
Time’s relative. You shouldn’t blame yourself. You do what you can with the resources you have. Do you have any special topic to discuss?
No. I just think I need to speak to someone. I’m again tilting toward the blue. It was okay for a while but I haven’t really solved any issues and you can’t expect Dee would just go away.
Let’s talk then. You talk, I give structure, all right?
I haven’t done my homework. I’ve been thinking I shouldn’t link my homework and therapy sessions. As it is, I wait to do a TS until my HW is done. But then I do HW perfectionistic and procrastinate TS. I need TSs. Sometimes I need them more than homework.
And again, I want TSs to be readable, so people who might give them a try wouldn’t say it was a waste of their time.
You shouldn’t do what you think people want (they might not want it at all). You should do what’s best for you.
— [Jack] — And you shouldn’t say should, as a therapist.
Oh, Jack, I missed you.
I know I should do more of what I want and I need and what’s good for me, not others. But I think we are off topic.
— [Jack] — Do we have a topic?
Officially, no. But I feel as I need to discuss something, which I don’t remember, but so far this wasn’t it.
Bytheway, why does Don sulk?
— [Jack] — Maybe you need to answer this.
Because my husband sulks and I need to address this whole sulking thing someday? My father sulked, my husband sulks, my former boss sulked and I tiptoed around each. (fuming)
— [Jack] — Why so aggressive? Have I hit a nail?
Among others. I just might like to argue. A lot.
— [Jack] — Hehe, I’m always here for you, baby. You can’t harm me. You can hit me with all you’ve got. I just might go sulking, too.
Well, you might. But you’re distracting me. I’m distracting myself.
This is what you get if you don’t start with a topic. We banter (Well, Mos doesn’t, she’s the clever one), and it all reads like a bad play.
— [Jack] — You’re again doing it for the readers.
I know. If I wasn’t so happy to be with you again I’d say go sleep again.
— [Jack] — You’re so au contraire. Full of conflicts.
Am I… At least the play might turn out well. I hope it’s a comedy. I don’t want to be a tragic heroine.
— [Jack] — So far it’s tragic.
— [Don] — Now Jack, leave her be. We need to do some serious work.
Oh, Don! Thank you for coming.
— [Jack] — Don’t go all soppy.
I miss my mom. I miss being a baby, of someone to take care of me. I’m crying, I don’t want to cry. I want to solve something.
— [Jack] — You’re either crying or–
— [Don] — She needs to get her feelings out. She’s usually too stoic.
I went to check the word stoic. Wow, it’s just the perfect description of me.
I’m not crying anymore.
Perhaps the crying was the right thing. I’m sensing a defence mechanism here somewhere. A defence mechanism avoids feelings.
I’m a mess. Should I get back to the feeling I had?
I miss my mother. I want to curl up and let someone else solve my problems. It’s so difficult to do it alone. … Yes, I hear you. You’re all here for me, but let’s face it. You’re me. It’s still me alone. You’re my coping squad. I don’t want to cope all the time. I want to live most of the time and cope just occasionally.
Let’s see what you’ve got to say.
— [Jack] — Definitely a defence mechanism. Now … the readers must know you’ve done half your homework already – it’s defence mechanisms … and we know there was one present just now. I bet on Intellectualisation. They are nasty double agents, aren’t they?
— [Don] — They help you, and they destroy you if you let them too far. I think you’re on a right path. We have helped you become aware of your feelings and defence mechanisms. Now you can fight.
You sound like Papa Smurf.
— [Jack] — Or Yoda. It was one feeling and one defence mechanism.
I know guys you don’t get along, it’s your nature. Both of you are right. Too bad I haven’t got more time (or energy) to pursue the feelings and defence mechanisms. I guess my therapy for today has ended.
I feel a bit better, even if for the wrong reasons, and I need to go to work.
I hope to see you soon. One step at a time. You’ve got time. Rome wasn’t built in one day.
I can’t argue with you, Mos. You can’t argue back.
It was a nice conversation. It wasn’t productive, but at least I got to speak with my friends.
— [Jack] — Inner voices …
All right! I can argue with you, Jack, but I won’t.
Have a nice day, y’all!
— [Don] — Tsk, tsk.